Gigi Langer, PhD, wrote the award-winning "50 Ways to Worry Less Now: Reject Negative Thinking to Find Peace, Clarity, and Connection" (4.8 stars). She's a sought-after speaker and retreat leader who has helped thousands of people improve their lives at home and work. She can help improve yours too! An author of six books on personal and professional growth, she's the self-proclaimed "Queen of Worry" and speaks from experience.
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Gigi Langer has been clean and sober for 33 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. She’s a sought-after speaker and retreat leader who has helped thousands improve their lives at work and at home.
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Grievances–grudges, judgment, criticism, resentment, blame, disapproval, or attack—block us from happiness and serenity.
“Well I don’t DO those things,”
You might think this, and you’re probably right. But what about the condemning attitudes living in our minds? Can any of us say we don’t constantly judge others’ words and actions? Of course we do.
It sounds like this: “If I were him, I wouldn’t do that.” “Why can’t she just get along with us? What’s wrong with her?” “They should not be doing that; they’re corrupt.”
The Problem with Grievances
Even though such statements seem true, the problem is that we’re focusing on the negative rather than the positive.
When we choose to hold a grievance, we can’t see the other
person’s true self—the purity of
their spirit. Further, if we can’t see the goodness in them, we can’t claim it for
ourselves. What we send out to others comes back to us; it’s that simple.
Many of us deny our own negativity by numbing ourselves with substances or other unhealthy habits—a dead end to positive growth. Even those trying to be more positive still struggle with inherent dark thoughts. I certainly do.
The good news is that I’ve found so many ways to escape my mind’s tendency to criticize and judge. You can find them in my book, “Worry Less Now,” and in my blog.
How to Overcome A Grievance
Here’s a technique that showed up today as I read Lesson 78, “Let miracles replace all grievances,” from A Course in Miracles. First I was to recall all my negative thoughts about an important person in my life: what that person had done, their “weaknesses,” and other offenses. Then I was to ask spirit to help me see him through the eyes of love—“Let your mind be shown the light in him beyond your grievances.” Then it suggested that I thank this person for prompting my negativity and discomfort so that I could release it and be peaceful and happy.
I just did the exercise as directed. As I chose to focus on the perfection of this person’s spirit rather than the images my mind had conjured, I found a deep peace creep over me. I could hardly remember what I thought was “wrong,” and I felt a loving connection with the person. As a result, I felt the light of spirit growing in myself.
The miracle of replacing fear with love had occurred. Amen.
I would love to hear from you: What gets in the way of your serenity? How do you overcome grievances or grudges?
Gigi Langer has been clean and sober for 33 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. She’s a sought-after speaker and retreat leader who has helped thousands improve their lives at work and at home.
Read her blog here or order her award-winning book (50 Ways to Worry Less Now) from Barnes and Noble, Amazon (5 stars), and all e-book vendors.
“How much simpler our lives can be if we only have the faith to accept what happens as a guidepost along a path that is naturally correct.” (Today’s Gift, Daily Meditations for Families by Hazelden)
Do you ever worry about the future or fret that things are not going well? Take a breath and relax. Then take another one. Instead of recalling the hardships of the “bad times,” remember how you were supported and what you learned on the other side. Tell yourself, “It’s not so bad.” Breathe deeply and remember: ALL IS WELL — even when your mind tells you it isn’t. Trust your path; it is naturally the correct one.
With love from Gigi. (Worry Less Now”)
PS. I’ve been celebrating my 30th wedding anniversary with Peter this past week & loving it!
A PATH NATURALLY CORRECT
PS. I’ve been celebrating my 30th wedding anniversary with Peter this past week & loving it!