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June 6, 2021June 6, 2021

TRUST THE PERFECT ORDER OF GROWTH!

As you may remember, I’ve stopped my weekly blog because I’m currently facilitating a “Worry Less Now” Study Group. It’s been wonderful joining with 8 beautiful women to work with affirmations, vision boards, master minding, and other tools from my book. Surprisingly, however, some of us are finding that change doesn’t come as quickly as we’d like. We may wonder, “Is it all really in perfect order?”

I thought you might enjoy reading the note I sent to the study group members about that dilemma.

Dear “Worry Less Now” Study Group Women

Since you’ve been working on improving your life, I hope you’re noticing some positive changes. If not, don’t worry!

Quite often, after declaring an intention to grow, we get into a situation that makes us so uncomfortable (for SO long) that we finally give up on trying to fix it all by ourselves. At this point, we’re usually quite willing to use more tools to stream loving power into our situation. Eventually (not on our timetable), we find peace of mind & intuitive guidance; and suddenly, it’s no longer a “problem.”

In short, sometimes things seem to get worse before they get better. My mantra for such times is,

“EVERYTHING IS IN PERFECT ORDER, even though I can’t see it.”

This past 2 weeks, I was laid up, so I read historical novels & kept in close contact with my docs. I was so tempted to believe the whispered lie: “My sickness will keep me from living the life I want.” Thank God, I was patient and kept affirming: “I am not my body; I am spirit, and all is well.” Today (finally) I feel like myself again—yay! Perhaps the “perfect order” here was that I needed to slow down and rest. More will be revealed!

Keep An Eye out for the Next “Worry Less Now” Study Group!

I hope you’re doing well these days, and that your growth-path is full of patience and miracles! Stay tuned for my next 5-week “Worry Less Now” study group. I hope you’ll join!

Gigi Langer has been sober 35 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat Murphy.

My award-winning book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now, describes how to reject the faulty thinking leading to addiction, dysfunctional relationships, perfectionism, and worry about loved ones. Check out the practical directions, personal stories, and other helpful suggestions. Amazon: 4.8 stars (Buy Discounted Paperback, e-book, OR audiobook HERE)

March 14, 2019March 29, 2019

Simple Trust and Perfect Order

Winding road of perfect order You’ve heard me talk before about how I believe things are in “perfect order.” It means that, even when a situation appears to be an unresolved mess, there’s an underlying order that’s working itself out–perfectly.

Since November, I’ve been writing and posting videos about my big adventure turning “50 Ways to Worry Less Now“ into an audiobook. During these past five months, I’ve really needed to trust perfect order, as this has been a VERY winding road!

Setting the Goal

I knew I wanted create an audiobook last fall when my banker asked how he could get it on Audible. I had to reply to him (and several others) that it wasn’t yet available. So, I began studying up on the process, and decided to try to do the narration, editing, and production myself.

(Have you noticed that I bite off BIG goals? What IS it with me??)

Fortunately, I’ve learned (often the hard way!) to trust that the road toward my goal may not be straight; in fact, it may even change direction. But, as long as I hold the vision and move toward it, the right order appears, and the project turns out just as it was meant to.

The Winding Road

Looking back, I can now see how the pieces were falling into perfect order. But, when I was in the middle of it, it sure looked messy! For example, in mid-December, I posted three YouTube videos about how I was reading every guide I could find, buying equipment, and learning to use the recording software. It was so exciting; I was sure I could do it!

In late December, I posted another video about creating two new documents: one for the narrator to read, and one for the companion workbook. So, those — and learning how to read the book in an interesting way — became my next goals.

Then in late January, I found a mentor who would guide me and give me feedback. But, when I started reading and listening to my performance, I faced a tough realization. Even though I wrote the book, I would need training to narrate it with proper expression. As I considered the mounting expenses and imagined myself sitting in my closet for 20 hours reading and editing, I suddenly realized I didn’t want to spend my time and money that way. What a surprise!

(I have to admit, I struggled a bit with my ego as it whispered to me, “But what will people think?” “Don’t you want it to be your voice?” But my simple trust in perfect order dissolved those lies. Whew!)

The Rest of the Story

The rest of the story is in the video, (click here). The upshot is: THERE WILL BE AN AUDIOBOOK available in June or July!

But, who is going to narrate it? Wait and see!

Gigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. She’s a sought-after speaker and retreat leader who has helped thousands improve their lives at work and at home.

Order it at Amazon or Barnes and Noble. E-books also available. Audiobook coming June 2019.

March 8, 2019March 13, 2019

HOW EASY IS IT FOR YOU TO RECEIVE CARE FROM OTHERS?

How easily can you receive care from from others? This question stopped me in my tracks when I read it in The Answer Is Simple: Love Yourself, Live Your Spirit! by spiritual teacher Sonia Choquette.

Surely, I thought, that wasn’t a problem for me! I had allowed plenty of men to “take care” of me–but only when I was in control of the payoff. The rest of the time, I was fiercely self-sufficient.

When I considered that I could receive care from other people, with NO strings attached, I could barely fathom it. I had always felt church and other organizations only welcomed me because they wanted my money or time.

Further, I didn’t feel I deserved such generous attention. My alcoholic home had taught me I wasn’t worth someone’s care or love; and that being a care-giver was safer than expecting it from another.

So, it’s not surprising that when I first went to 12-step programs, I was hesitant to accept the support offered by others–especially the women! Up until then, I had always relied on my lover and one female “using buddy.” I had no idea how to interact with healthy women without my old manipulative ways.

But, after months of hearing my recovering friends talk about their loving sponsors, I finally took the plunge and asked someone to be my sponsor. I couldn’t believe it when she said yes and gave me hours and hours of her undivided attention, just so I could stay sober (and she stayed sober too!)

It’s almost impossible to grow spiritually without healthy friends whose main purpose is to do the same. So, if you’re trying to straighten out your life (or keep it sane), you’ll consider this question carefully:
** How willing are you to receive help from others? **

It took me a while, but I’m happy to report that I now count myself rich, knowing that a select group of friends would immediately come to my rescue in any crisis.

To examine your own willingness to receive care from others, take a moment to consider these questions.

1. How easy is it for you to ask others for help?
2. Do you believe you always need to appear strong and competent?
3. Are you most comfortable in the role of helping others?
4. Can you graciously accept healthy loving care regardless of where it comes from?
5. What false beliefs might stand in the way of you being a better receiver?

If you can’t trust others to give you love without expecting something in return, or if you believe you don’t deserve others’ support, I encourage you to let go of this “I am an island” mentality (as in Paul Simon’s song, “I am a rock”). Perhaps counseling, spiritual practices, or other healthy people can help you accept loving care from others.

For tips on finding healthy friends, read this article. To learn more about overcoming negative, self-limiting thinking so you can enjoy peace, clarity, and connection, see GigiLanger.com.

Order her award-winning book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now at Amazon or get 20% off with promo code 20lessnow here.

February 9, 2019

EVERYTHING’S ALRIGHT — IT REALLY IS!

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I’ve always found great comfort from the the Jesus Christ Superstar hit, “Everything’s Alright” because I used to desperately try to believe it. After years of trials, I’ve finally found the tools that help me trust that everything’s alright. I know you can gain that trust, too. It just takes a few new choices.

These song lyrics by Andrew Lloyd Webber and Tim Rice offer a few hints.

Try not to get worried,

Try not to turn on to problems that upset you, oh.

Don’t you know, everything’s alright, yes, everything’s fine.

And we want you to sleep well tonight.

Let the world turn without you tonight.

Everything’s alright, yes, everything’s alright, yes.

Sleep and I shall soothe you, calm you, and anoint you.

Myrrh for your hot forehead, oh.

Then you’ll feel everything’s alright, yes, everything’s fine.

And it’s cool, and the ointment’s sweet, For the fire in your head and feet.

Close your eyes, close your eyes, And relax, think of nothing tonight.

So, what is the song trying to tell us?

Try not to turn on to problems that upset you. Don’t dwell on the
“hopelessness” of your problems; instead, redirect your mind toward hope, care, and positive thoughts. Here’s how to do that.
Let the world turn without you tonight. You don’t have to fix all the problems of the world. Just let it spin. Try detachment as explained here.
I shall soothe you, calm you, and anoint you . . . And relax, think of nothing tonight. Turning to a higher presence to soothe your worries allows you to relax, to let go of “figuring it out.” From this cool, sweet place come the insights, inspiration, and solutions for all your worries. More about this power here.

Just imagine the relief flowing over you as you trust a loving power to take care of every aspect of your life, knowing that guidance and comfort will take care of whatever vexes you. Ahhhhh. Relax, Try not to worry. Everything’s alright–it really is!

Gigi Langer is the author of 50 Ways to Worry Less Now: Reject Negative Thinking to Find Peace, Clarity, and Connection. 5 Stars on Amazon and winner of the Indie Excellence Award. Get 20% off herewith promo code 20lessnow. (No discount at Amazon or e-books)

Gigi had a long career teaching and writing in education. She holds a PhD from Stanford University in Psychological Studies in Education, and has been clean and sober for 33 years.

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