So many of us are afraid there’s something deep down inside us that is essentially bad. Even worse, we think if we uncover it (for example in therapy), we’ll fall apart.
Whether it’s an old wound, family dysfunction, trauma, shame, or guilt, we mistakenly believe that we just can’t handle looking at it. Better to leave it there, undisturbed.
Unfortunately, burying such wounds–or just blaming our unhappiness on them–gets us nowhere.
In fact, many engage in vigorous denial by staying busy with work, shopping, eating, gambling, or substance abuse. Others just fall ill, as if being eaten away by the hidden misdeeds.
Anything will do to distract us from that deluge of awful feelings and shame, waiting deep inside us to break free.
Here I talk briefly how this fear did not come true for me–and, trust me, there was some pretty awful stuff down in there. But, the pain did not come gushing out all at once. Rather, my healing occurred in layers, guided by healthy friends and a higher power.
Hear more about it here.
Gigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. She is a seasoned author and popular speaker who has helped thousands of people improve their lives at home and work. Gigi hasn’t had a drug or drink for over 30 years, although she does occasionally overindulge in Ghirardelli chocolate and historical novels. She lives in Florida with her husband, Peter, and her cat, Murphy.