Most negative thinking isn’t true. So, why let it trouble us?
SCRIPT FOR VIDEO:  My [negative] thoughts are based on past experiences and future predictions–all of which have been reinterpreted by my brain in a fictional way . . . really! My brain created this scenario in the future, and it hasnât even happened. My brain created this thing about the past and has “awfulized” it.
So first, donât trust a thought. You know, espectially when weâre tense, our thinking is whacked. So the first thing: âOh, Okay; this thought Iâm thinking doesnât have to be the one I stick with.â Okay?
So, then, 4. The decision: Iâm gonna change my thinking. So, when I recognize that my thoughts are based on past experiences, just to give you an  example: the Kindle (upload) thing. [I kept failing at it.] I hate failure. You know, I just hate failure
And hereâs . . .Underneath each fear and worry is what I call in the book (and it’s a theme throughout) a Whispered Lie: âYou’re going to screw up!â âYouâre not going to look good!â You know. Or it could be a self-statement: âOh, man! Iâll never be able to figure this out; I hate technology.â You know, all those lovely helpful things we tell ourselves. (Audience laughs)
So, all the techniques in the book are about dissolving those Whispered Lies so that hope, clarity, and good things can come in.
So, the first one weâre going to try is my favorite; itâs called the Golden Key. And itâs the simplest thing. The premise of all of these is that you have control over what your mind dwells on. You absolutely have a choice. And itâs a minute-by-minute (or sometimes a second-by-second) thing.
So, with the Golden Key, Iâm gonna make a decision: Every time I have a negative thought or feeling about something (âOh! Iâm uploading that Kindle file tonight; itâs never gonna work!â), Iâm going to gently replace it with a positive thought, or a prayer, or an inspiring image.
So, you get to choose what that is. For me, Iâm gonna say, âAll is well. Everything is in perfect order.â Thatâs something that works for me. For you it might be the Serenity Prayer, an image of a rose, um, a light . . . anything that connects you with some source of goodness bigger than your fear. Something that you can tell yourself or focus on thatâs bigger than the fear. A source of good.
So think of what that might be for you. . . [The Video ends here; participants practice silently switching their thoughts from the negative to their positive phrase or image]
To read about Emmet Foxâs Golden Key technique, click here.
For more tips, buy 50 Ways to Worry Less Nowat Amazon Itâs been out for 3 weeks and gotten great reviews! I hope it helps you find peace, clarity, and connection as you free yourself from worry and negative thinking. Best of luck! â Gigi Langer, former âQueen of Worryâ
Gigi Langer holds an MA in Psychology and PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. She is a seasoned author and popular speaker who has helped thousands of people improve their lives at home and work. Langer hasnât had a drug or drink for over 30 years, although she occasionally overindulgeS in Ghirardelli chocolate and historical novels. Gigi lives happily in Michigan with her husband, Peter and her cat, Murphy.
“I give this book five beautiful healthy wise stars! Because with this book: youâll be able to gain peace, clarity and wisdom, and share it with the World! Just as I am sharing it with you now! So, before itâs too late, get your own copy, and start making changes today! And remember: you read it here with me, and I was inspired enough to share it with you, just as you will be inspired enough to share it with others!”
“Donât even start thinking, âThis is just gonna be another self-help book.â Because it isnât âJust another self-help book!â This book will help you see things that you never even thought about!”
“I am so impressed that I had the privilege to read this book! I will admit, I started off thinking in the negative, but as I read, I was not just enlightened, I was awakened. So much of what I think, do and see, and even feel, is negativity and I have the ability to put a stop to it, not just by walking away, not just by staying away, but by changing the way I think and do things. And this, my friends, is only the beginning.”
When Deneale asked, “What made you decide to write this book and how long did it take you?” I replied:
“Worry Less Now began as a memoir chronicling my career as a professional horseback rider; three short marriages; and adventures in Spain, Hawaii, Brazil, and Germany (yes, those husbands travelled!). My wise fourth husband (of 30 years) suggested that instead I write a self-help book with ‘all those helpful things you say when you counsel people on the phone.’
“Iâve worked with hundreds of women in recovery because I spent many years using alcohol, drugs, and romance to deal with a lifetime of worry and anxiety. When I stopped drinking 30 years ago, I began applying tools from therapy, recovery proÂgrams, scientific research, and a variety of philosophical and spiritual teachings to overcome my negative thinking, dysfunctional relationships, perfectionism, addictions, chronic pain, and worry about loved ones.”
“I wrote Worry Less Now to share these tools with people who might benefit from them. I used parts of my own story to illustrate how I discovered the tools and how they helped me become happy and at peace. The book is very practical with four life strategies, 50 concrete tools, and step-by-step exercises.”
“It took 3 ½ years to write the first draft; then I sent it to advance readers and a developmental editor (Nina Amir) who suggested revisions. I took a year off to co-author an education book for Sage Publishing, and got back to âWorry Less Nowâ in 2015. I revised it two more times using feedback from two more groups of advance readers. Then I spent most of 2017 with editors, typographers, book cover designers, and proofreaders.”
The bookâs official release date is February 22, 2018. It was a lot of work, but I love the result and I hope it helps many people overcome their worries so they too can face their challenges with calm wisdom and courage.
Gigi holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology, both from Stanford University. As a professor, she won several awards for her teaching, and (as Georgea M. Langer) wrote books and articles for educators. Through speeches, retreats, and workshops, she helps thousands of people improve their lives at home and at work.  Gigi hasnât had a drug or drink for over 30 years, although she does occasionally overindulge in Ghirardelli chocolate and historical novels. She lives happily in Michigan with her husband, Peter and cat, Murphy.
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DISCOVER tactics to dissolve the negative beliefs underlying your worries.
REVIEWS of Worry Less Now
âI loved the simplicity and the host of quickly adopted suggestions. Even though I have been in recovery for more than 4 decades, and thus didn’t really think another self-help book would make it to my treasured list, I was wrong. This book is a winner.â -Karen Casey, best-selling author of Each Day a New BeginningÂ
Plenty of books advocate countering negative thinking; but too few actually provide step-by-step measures on how to do so. Others simply choose a singular path and follow it. The pleasure of 50 Ways to Worry Less Now lies in its examples, specific exercises, and injections of how the author used various routines to find her way out of negativity.  Highly recommended for anyone who worries too much, lives too hard a life, and searches for a better way.â  – D. Donovan, Senior Reviewer, Midwest Book Review   Full review: 50 Ways to Worry Less NowÂ
âReads like a compendium of the worldâs wisdom on successful living. These are no set of abstractions found in self-help books; rather they are lessons Langer has learned from painful experience. I am buying copies for my grandchildren.â – Dr. Bob Garmston, California State University
âI’ve become reluctant to recommend personal growth books to my clients because so few seem to focus on taking action. Worry Less Now is different. Rather than setting herself up as the authority, itâs clear that she works the strategies and tools as part of her ongoing growth.â –Christine McCully, LMHC, MA
âGigi Langer has moved the self-help genre from quick-fix solutions to outlining a well-researched set of principles/concepts/ exercises that can assist enormously a person who is serious about wanting to worry less and to find peace and connections in his/her life.â Â â Sharon Kalbfleisch, MSW
âThis is not a one-size-fits-all book. It offers a broad pallet of thoughtful ways one can find a path to a less stressful life. Interspersed with relatable personal stories, I found this book both useful and delightful to read.â âB. Jorgenson, M.A. Education
âI am not a book critic, but I am a worrier, so I am qualified to highly recommend Gigi’s book. I believe everyone can benefit from reading this book and putting her ideas into daily practice.â –Reverend Cathy Freeman
âWhile reading this book I felt like I was on a journey, interacting and participating with the strategies.â – Roberta Tankenow, Pharmacist
“Gigi has written a jewel of a book with sharp insight, an open honest heart, timeless wisdom, and inspiration galore. A healing masterpiece if one chooses to use the tools.” Â -LiRa Bennett,President, A Place of Well-Being Inc.
âAs a mental health clinician for thirty-two years, Iâm excited to report that Langerâs book provides a well-thought-out and flexible structure to question worried thinking habits, manage anxiety, and respond in new, healthier ways. One of the best âHow Toâ manuals Iâve read on what it means to be human.   Langer has compiled an impressive array of clinical, medical, and philosophical sources and research. Although some of the tools are spiritually-oriented, theyâre not religious or heavy-handed. I canât wait to tell my clients and colleagues about this wonderful book.â –Coleen Travers, LCSWÂ
âOne of the biggest themes in the book is the whispered lies people tell themselves that encourage negative thoughts, feelings, and attitudes. Theyâre the icky things you tell yourself that bring you down, and most of the time they just arenât true. Gigi teaches you how to recognize those whispered lies and create strategies to turn your negativity around. Langer isnât afraid to discuss her own personal experiences with abuse, addiction, and more. It really humanizes her as a narrator and adds a level of relatability that can be missing when a professional communicates with their audience.â –Shannon Doe, âMillennial Bloggerâ http:/GoingWithHappy.com
âThis is definitely the book to have on your shelf, by your bed, near your favorite chair, or on your desk. Her wisdom is definitely a healing gift. Know someone who needs help? Give them this book. No matter what the circumstance, there is something in this book that will help everyone to worry less now.â Â â Ginger Wakem
“Excellent book to have on hand to navigate the minefield of life…like going to a mental health grocery store: pick the various tools to create a recipe for peace and serenity.â –Ginna Jordan, Interior Designer
âYou donât have to use all the tools at once. You can piecemeal what you can handle at the time and implement the rest later once you are ready to increase your skill level. A MUST READ for just about anyone!â – Liz Audette, Marketing Professional
âA smorgasbord of helpful ideas and techniques from an author who has been there and done that. Highly recommended.â -Marcie Foster
âThis book is a gift to those of us who yearn to defeat worry, negativity, and self-doubt. It is beautifully written, clearly organized, and filled with life-changing wisdom. Gigi has truly led the way to successful living and made it possible for us to follow.â –Ginny Chism
âFinally! A book that doesn’t just ‘talk’ about positive thinking…a book that tells you how to get there with very practical tools.  Gigi’s personal examples and forthright approach make this an invaluable resource, for now and in the future.â –Dawn Champanois, Human Resource Professional
âGigi helps the reader see how we self-sabotage and how we feed off the negative thinking as a way to compensate for the pesky lies we create to make everything seem alright to ourselves and those around us. She teaches how to get honest, then claim your power, then to make choices that are good and then finally, to use these practices to grow within ourselves to be ultimately successful.â âMary Caliendo, Writer and Editor
âIf you want a logical, practical, and precise road map to a positive way of living, read Fifty Ways to Worry Less Now. This inspired book is an easy flowing, solidly packed, and sequential guide to living a peaceful life.â â Bernadette Thibodeau
â I was engaged from the first chapter to the last page. I plan to share this book with everyone I know. I will also be keeping a copy in my tool kit.â -Kathy Guzman
âNow I have a go-to book ready to pull out when those whispering lies try to take over or when the going gets tough. A perfect book to pass on to others as they struggle with recovery or other life challenges.â   –Janice Weber
 âThis book goes beyond theory and gives you interesting examples of real life challenges and then offers concrete strategies to overcome worry. Whether you have read many self-help books or are just getting started on the journey, there is a valuable gem in this book for you.â     –Annabelle Nesbit
âThis book addresses action plans that confront worry head-on in a positive and insightful manner. She includes events from her own life that illustrate trauma, recognition, work, and resolution. By sharing these incidents, Langer exemplifies her own journey with love and grace to help others.â –Lynn Cool
âEasy to understand and well put together. The charts and graphs add further understanding and are well created. The author shares her personal experiences, strength, and knowledge with the reader in an effective manner.â Â –Kathy Harenda
 âA mindful anthology of tools and strategies written from the gut. The writing is lovely, clear, filled with tried and true strategies, humor, and authentic voice. Choose the tools that work for you to find serenity in your life.â  -Barb Robb, M.A. Education
âThis book offers hope, promise, and potential for anyone ready transform his or her life. Itâs simplicity, clarity, and specificity speak directly to all of us who want our lives to be more fulfilling for ourselves and for those we love.â Â – Joellen Killion
âBetter than a croissant with coffee in the morning! I have enjoyed the opportunity to linger over the words, consider how to apply them in my own life, and cherish the opportunity to pause, focus, and plan for a more meaningful life, one free of the routine stressors that debilitate and drain me without even knowing the effects.â – Jessica Kemp
âAfter 29 years sober, I now have a book with 50 ways to say, “no”, to my negative thinking. This book is a wonderful tool for anyone on a journey toward peace and sanity.â –Patty Kolesar
âGigi Langer gives us a precise diagnosis and remedy for the many negative situations that can too easily frustrate the best of our efforts to live clean and sober. The wisdom of this book will guide us through many of our darkest moments to serenity and a new confidence in the joy of life.â –Fred Wass M.H.S. Chaplain
âGigi Langer’s honesty will blow you away! It is beautifully written; filled with humor and authenticity. As an Alanon acolyte for 20 years, I’ve read dozens of self-help books, and I can recommend Langer’s fresh, honest tutorial on growing into your true, healthy self. –Kathi Dutilh
âA quick and easy read, with many tools to apply for anyone at any point in their life, whether it be addiction, anxiety, co-dependence, or just seeking personal growth. She will have such a positive impact and do such great things with this book! – Tahra Luther, MS,
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NOTE: In the publishing biz, this is called a “soft launch” because it allows blog and newsletter subscribers to purchase the book before the official publication date. The full / big/ official launch is February 20th.
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If you prefer an e-book, that will be available in mid-February.
Gigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology, both from Stanford University. As a professor, she won several awards for her teaching, and (as Georgea M. Langer) wrote four books for educators as well as hundreds of articles on professional growth.
As a person in recovery, Gigi hasnât had a drug or drink for over 30 years, although she does occasionally overindulge in Ghirardelli chocolate and historical novels. Through speeches, retreats, and workshops, she helps thousands of people improve their lives at home and at work. She lives happily in Michigan with her husband, Peter and her kitty, Murphy.
Gigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology, both from Stanford University. As a professor, she won several awards for her teaching, and (as Georgea M. Langer) wrote four books for educators as well as hundreds of articles on professional growth.