Gigi Langer, Author at GIGI LANGER

March 29, 2019March 28, 2019

ABUNDANCE HAS INCLUDED ME!

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Today, as I listened to Day 3 of Deepak & Oprah’s free (I love free!) meditation series on gratitude, Deepak made a statement that stopped me in my tracks:

“The good things in your life show that abundance has included you.”

Shut out of Abundance

I realized that, although I DO believe Deepak’s words now, it was not always so. For years, I felt everyone else had everything they wanted, but somehow I had been excluded.

– I couldn’t feel safe in my home, but of course everybody else did, right?

– I couldn’t make a romance last forever, but everybody else could, right? I mean, look at the fairy tales!!

– I couldn’t stop my own drugging, drinking and sleeping around — those were things nobody else did, right?

So apparently, I was basically a bad person doing bad stuff who didn’t deserve good things. Although I thought I had been denied abundance, I couldn’t have been more wrong!

Abundance to the Max!

After embarking on a vigorous program of spiritual practice, recovery, and therapy, I can honestly say that for several years now, I’ve been living the life of my dreams.

I’m happily married–30 years this May; just published an award-winning book; spend the winters away from the cold; and even though advancing in my years, I still enjoy golf and time with my husband, family, and a multitude of dear friends.

I’m so grateful to be able to report that I HAVE been included in abundance, just like Deepak said!

You too deserve abundance. See GigiLanger.com to learn about the tools that transformed my life. They might work for you too!

Gigi Langer has been clean and sober for 33 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. She’s a sought-after speaker and retreat leader who has helped thousands improve their lives at work and at home. Read her blog here or order her award-winning book from Barnes and Noble, Amazon, and all e-book vendors.

March 21, 2019July 31, 2020

WHEN LIFE ISN’T WORKING (Video)

Have you ever felt like your life isn’t working?? I sure have! Fortunately, I’ve found many helpful ways to get my life “working well” again so I can be peaceful and strong, no matter what is going on.

In this 7-minute video, I explain this quote from my book, “When life isn’t working, it’s usually because we’re trying to force things to go our way.”

This is PART 2 of the hour-long interview about my book with Charita Cadenhead for her radio broadcast, “About the Book.”

If you can relate to my ideas, let me know! Find out how to get through your tough times by using helpful tools from my book and blog.

Interviewer: Charita H. Cadenhead, Realtor, Author, Radio host, Entrepreneur (R.A.R.E.).

“50 Ways to Worry Less Now” won the Indie Excellence Award for self-help and rates 5 stars on Amazon.

Gigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. She’s a sought-after speaker and retreat leader who has helped thousands improve their lives at work and at home.

Order it at Amazon or Barnes and Noble. E-books also available. Audiobook coming June 2019.

March 14, 2019March 29, 2019

Simple Trust and Perfect Order

Winding road of perfect order You’ve heard me talk before about how I believe things are in “perfect order.” It means that, even when a situation appears to be an unresolved mess, there’s an underlying order that’s working itself out–perfectly.

Since November, I’ve been writing and posting videos about my big adventure turning “50 Ways to Worry Less Now“ into an audiobook. During these past five months, I’ve really needed to trust perfect order, as this has been a VERY winding road!

Setting the Goal

I knew I wanted create an audiobook last fall when my banker asked how he could get it on Audible. I had to reply to him (and several others) that it wasn’t yet available. So, I began studying up on the process, and decided to try to do the narration, editing, and production myself.

(Have you noticed that I bite off BIG goals? What IS it with me??)

Fortunately, I’ve learned (often the hard way!) to trust that the road toward my goal may not be straight; in fact, it may even change direction. But, as long as I hold the vision and move toward it, the right order appears, and the project turns out just as it was meant to.

The Winding Road

Looking back, I can now see how the pieces were falling into perfect order. But, when I was in the middle of it, it sure looked messy! For example, in mid-December, I posted three YouTube videos about how I was reading every guide I could find, buying equipment, and learning to use the recording software. It was so exciting; I was sure I could do it!

In late December, I posted another video about creating two new documents: one for the narrator to read, and one for the companion workbook. So, those — and learning how to read the book in an interesting way — became my next goals.

Then in late January, I found a mentor who would guide me and give me feedback. But, when I started reading and listening to my performance, I faced a tough realization. Even though I wrote the book, I would need training to narrate it with proper expression. As I considered the mounting expenses and imagined myself sitting in my closet for 20 hours reading and editing, I suddenly realized I didn’t want to spend my time and money that way. What a surprise!

(I have to admit, I struggled a bit with my ego as it whispered to me, “But what will people think?” “Don’t you want it to be your voice?” But my simple trust in perfect order dissolved those lies. Whew!)

The Rest of the Story

The rest of the story is in the video, (click here). The upshot is: THERE WILL BE AN AUDIOBOOK available in June or July!

But, who is going to narrate it? Wait and see!

Order it at Amazon or Barnes and Noble. E-books also available. Audiobook coming June 2019.

March 8, 2019March 13, 2019

HOW EASY IS IT FOR YOU TO RECEIVE CARE FROM OTHERS?

How easily can you receive care from from others? This question stopped me in my tracks when I read it in The Answer Is Simple: Love Yourself, Live Your Spirit! by spiritual teacher Sonia Choquette.

Surely, I thought, that wasn’t a problem for me! I had allowed plenty of men to “take care” of me–but only when I was in control of the payoff. The rest of the time, I was fiercely self-sufficient.

When I considered that I could receive care from other people, with NO strings attached, I could barely fathom it. I had always felt church and other organizations only welcomed me because they wanted my money or time.

Further, I didn’t feel I deserved such generous attention. My alcoholic home had taught me I wasn’t worth someone’s care or love; and that being a care-giver was safer than expecting it from another.

So, it’s not surprising that when I first went to 12-step programs, I was hesitant to accept the support offered by others–especially the women! Up until then, I had always relied on my lover and one female “using buddy.” I had no idea how to interact with healthy women without my old manipulative ways.

But, after months of hearing my recovering friends talk about their loving sponsors, I finally took the plunge and asked someone to be my sponsor. I couldn’t believe it when she said yes and gave me hours and hours of her undivided attention, just so I could stay sober (and she stayed sober too!)

It’s almost impossible to grow spiritually without healthy friends whose main purpose is to do the same. So, if you’re trying to straighten out your life (or keep it sane), you’ll consider this question carefully:
** How willing are you to receive help from others? **

It took me a while, but I’m happy to report that I now count myself rich, knowing that a select group of friends would immediately come to my rescue in any crisis.

To examine your own willingness to receive care from others, take a moment to consider these questions.

1. How easy is it for you to ask others for help?
2. Do you believe you always need to appear strong and competent?
3. Are you most comfortable in the role of helping others?
4. Can you graciously accept healthy loving care regardless of where it comes from?
5. What false beliefs might stand in the way of you being a better receiver?

If you can’t trust others to give you love without expecting something in return, or if you believe you don’t deserve others’ support, I encourage you to let go of this “I am an island” mentality (as in Paul Simon’s song, “I am a rock”). Perhaps counseling, spiritual practices, or other healthy people can help you accept loving care from others.

For tips on finding healthy friends, read this article. To learn more about overcoming negative, self-limiting thinking so you can enjoy peace, clarity, and connection, see GigiLanger.com.

Order her award-winning book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now at Amazon or get 20% off with promo code 20lessnow here.

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Worry Less Now!

Author: Gigi Langer