50 Ways to Worry Less Now Available January 30th!

Worry Less NowGUESS WHAT??

You can now buy a print copy of the book!    The book description is here

Just click here  and it will arrive in early February

NOTE:  In the publishing biz, this is called a “soft launch” because it allows blog and newsletter subscribers to purchase the book before the official publication date.  The full / big/ official launch is February 20th.

Request: As soon as you read it, I’d be so grateful if you’d post your reviews in three places: Amazon; my author FB page; and Goodreads.

If you’d prefer to order it from Amazon, just use this link

If you prefer an e-book, that will be available in mid-February.

gigilanger_worrylessnowGigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology, both from Stanford University. As a professor, she won several awards for her teaching, and (as Georgea M. Langer) wrote four books for educators as well as hundreds of articles on professional growth.

As a person in recovery, Gigi hasn’t had a drug or drink for over 30 years, although she does occasionally overindulge in Ghirardelli chocolate and historical novels. Through speeches, retreats, and workshops, she helps thousands of people improve their lives at home and at work. She lives happily in Michigan with her husband, Peter and her kitty, Murphy.

 

Is It Good or Bad to Be A Highly Sensitive Person?

worry less now, Gigi Langer

For years, I constantly heard that I was too “thin-skinned” or “high maintenance.” When I looked around at others, they didn’t seem to take things so personally or to be bothered by loud noises and bright lights.

What was wrong with me?

About ten years ago I discovered the answer: I’m a “highly sensitive person” and I’m NOT alone. Indeed, about 20% of the population shares this trait.

Dr. Eileen Aron’s 25 years of research indicates that highly sensitive people:

  • are quite sensitive to external stimuli,
  • prefer quiet, less chaotic surroundings,
  • worry excessively,
  • are easily overwhelmed,
  • reflect on things more than others, and
  • feel things very deeply,

You’ll be happy to hear that these characteristics are quite respected in many societies where the sensitive ones become advisors and sages. But, in our Western culture, being highly sensitive isn’t always understood or valued. That’s why some of us so often feel on the outside looking in.

The healthiest path for us sensitive folks is to value who we are and take good care of ourselves.

So, if you think you might be a highly sensitive person or have a loved one that is, take the quiz on Aron’s website and check out her blog, “Comfort Zone.”

If you can relate, here are a few suggestions for self-care.

  • Reduce your exposure to loud, dramatic input: news programs, social media, argumentative friends/family, etc.
  • Schedule downtime to rest, meditate, read, and renew after a busy day or after lots of social activity.
  • Sleep enough, eat well and limit caffeine intake.
  • Treat yourself to the enjoyment of beauty: take a walk, savor a sunset, etc.
  • Hang out with loving people who like you exactly the way you are.
  • Avoid bright lights and loud background noise (if they bother you).
  • Remind yourself that your sensitivity makes you creative, empathetic, and loving.

If you too are highly sensitive, please share a few of your insights here. Thanks!

gigilanger_worrylessnowGigi Langer, Ph.D. is a seasoned author and popular speaker who has helped thousands of people improve their lives at home and work. She’s a person in recovery who hasn’t had a drug or drink for over 30 years. Gigi holds an MA in Psychology and Ph.D. in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University.

Worry Less Now by Gigi LangerCheck out my new book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now: Reject Negative Thinking to Find Peace, Clarity, and Connection.  Pre-orders are now open.

Are You A Prisoner of Your Whispered Lies?

Overcome Your Problems: Find A New Perspective

Seek a new perspective

When you’re facing confusion, conflict, or other problems, begin by honestly admitting that your thinking is distorted by fear. Then, claim the power to find a new perspective.

Rumi, the thirteenth-century Persian poet and Sufi mystic, wrote,

         Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and right-doing is a field.  I will meet you there.

Looking beyond the contours of the problem leads to a field of new possibilities. It’s a choice between living in the problem and living in the solution.

 Living in the problem.Our worries focus our attention on the “rightdoing and wrongdoing” of our situation: We obsess about who was at fault, what we should have said or done, or how a situation should be different. These fears make us tense, often leading to rash actions and damaged relationships.

Living in the solution.When we look “out beyond” these negative thoughts, we find a perspective of peace, hope, and wisdom. This is where the solutions lie.

Recently, I argued with my husband by insisting the GPS was giving us the wrong directions. After a pretty nasty exchange, I closed my mouth, breathed quietly, and chose to seek a new perspective.  Every time my mind wanted to prove that I was right, I said the Serenity Prayer. Soon, the heat of my emotions subsided. Later, we both had a good laugh when we saw that my “better” route was no faster than the GPS’s route!

Try this simple exercise to experience living in the solution rather than in the problem. It’s a variation on “The Golden Key” published in Power Through Constructive Thinking  (free PDF of the entire book) by Emmet Fox, a New Thought leader of the early 20th century.

Whenever a troubling thought comes to you, gently focus your mind on something that brings you hope or happiness. It may be a phrase (“All is well”); a prayer; or an image of a beloved child or a rose. When you revert to worrying, think instead about your positive thought.

Make the switch as often as necessary.

Your thoughts frequently return to the problem in the mistaken belief that this will fix it. Be vigilant and gentle as you teach your mind to think about the positive thoughts you’ve chosen.

Soon you will gain a peaceful outlook that leads to wise solutions. Quite often you’ll find no action is necessary at all.

gigilanger_worrylessnowGigi Langer holds a Ph.D. in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology from Stanford University. Through her writing, coaching, and speaking, Gigi has helped thousands of people improve their lives at home and at work. Her new book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now, will be available everywhere in February 2018.