Gigi Langer

Worry Less Now!

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HOW TO CALM YOUR OVERACTIVE MIND

I have a tendency to overthink things. You might too.

Your mind takes off and starts imagining the worst things that could happen in the future, or you find yourself looking back at the recent past and regretting your words or actions. Even worse is when we get caught up in judging and resenting the actions of an important person in our lives. 

Here are a few tools I use to anchor my mind in the present moment rather than in the future or past. 

 THE 5,4,3,2,1 TECHNIQUE  (Full blog post:  https://GigiLanger.com/anxiety-attack/)

Take a few slow belly-inflating breathes and remind yourself that your body is right here right now, and you can choose to focus your mind on the present moment rather than on the future or past. .

1. Name 5 things you can see around you (Examples: rug, painting)

2 . Name 4 things you can feel (feet on the floor, cool air on the skin)

3 . Name 3 things you can hear right now (a fan running, peopleā€™s voices outside)

4. Name 2 things you can smell right now (perfumed soap)

5. Name 1 good thing about yourself (ā€œI am strong,ā€ ā€œI can help myself through this.ā€)

If you simply canā€™t focus, or if your body and mind havenā€™t yet settled down, take a few more belly-inflating breaths, and tell yourself that you can focus your thoughts on the present moment. Then do the exercise again.

It may take several minutes of repetition before your mind settles down.

According to independent.co.uk, “the trick, which relies on sensory awareness, is rooted in mindfulness – and apart from anxiety, it can help treat depression, addiction disorders, lower blood pressure, and relieve stress” (Harvard University Helpguide.org)

MINDFULNESS TRAINING 

It really helped me to take the ā€œMindfulness Based Stress Reductionā€ (MBSR) 8-week course. It uses breathing and simple stretches to keep your mind on your body, and its research studies show impressive results (Jon Kabat-Zinn and colleagues from  University of Massachusetts Medical Center). More info here: Mindfulness-based stress reduction – Wikipedia   Really effective.

MIND REFOCUSING 
I often catch my mind worrying about the future, and when I notice this I substitute a quick little phrase to anchor me back into the now: ā€œAll is well right now.ā€ or, ā€œHelp me to see this differently.ā€ Also repeating a short prayer like the Serenity Prayer helps a lot.

The idea is to substitute a ā€œright nowā€ thought or sensation for our worries, fears, and stressful thoughts.

NOTE: In my experience, I often need to make the switch several times an hour (sometimes many times a minute!)

It will take consistent practice to retrain your mind to stay in the present. Keep at it and your life and health will improve.

Gigi Langer, a person in recovery, holds a Ph.D. in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology from Stanford University. Through her writing, coaching, and speaking, Gigi has helped thousands of people improve their lives at home and at work. She lives in Michigan with her husband and Murphy, her cat.

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7 WAYS TO OVERCOME FEAR

These days, it’s really easy to fall prey to fear and insecurity about the future. So, I thought I’d share with you seven ways to overcome fear.

1) Instead of focusing on whatā€™s wrong, focus on whatā€™s right. Try a gratitude journal, random acts of kindness, finding something you appreciate about another person, or stopping to smell the roses (or in this case, our beautiful spring blossoming trees!)

2) Instead of obsessing about a negative situation until it seems to be a major issue, try to keep it in perspective. Remember that this too shall pass, and you’ve made it through worse things. Try to accept what is going on with calm trust that, even though things may appear scary or chaotic, all is well. For more on changing your perspective, see this post.

3) Instead of isolating with TV, media, and potato chips (or ice cream!), hang out with positive people striving to improve their lives. They will give you hope and make you laugh–the best tonic of all. Zoom has many meetings and gatherings to support your growth.

4) Instead of engaging in self-criticism, try self-compassion. Talk to yourself as if you were a small child who needs comforting and reassurance. Take good care of yourself by taking a hot bath or a soothing walk outside.

5) Instead of trying to change the past by thinking about how it could have been different, focus on what is going on right now, both inside and around your body. Savor the sensations of sound, touch, scent, vision, and taste.

6) Instead of living in the wreckage of your future, try being 100% in this present moment. Pay rapt attention to those you’re listening to and enjoy every moment of your life.

7) Instead of trying to change people, places, or things, admit that you have no power over them. Then focus on the only things you CAN control: your own attitudes and actions. Admit that you don’t know what is best in every situation. Practice acceptance. Let go and allow the mysterious power of spirit handle things.

What would you add? I would love to hear how you’re overcoming fear!
With love from Gigi, ā€œWorry Less Now!ā€

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Gigi LangerĀ has been clean and sober for 33 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Sheā€™s a sought-after speaker and retreat leader who has helped thousands improve their lives at work and at home.Ā 

Order myĀ award-winning bookĀ (50 Ways to Worry Less Now) HERE . Also available in e-book and audiobook.Ā  4.8 stars on Amazon!

Beat Stress by Wanting What’s HERE RIGHT NOW

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They say the past is over and the future is yet to be. The only thing that remains is the present moment. That’s sure been true for me!

Years ago, I had a chance to learn how stress about the past or future can rob our experience of the present.

Mindfulness

Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, the developer of Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction programs, teaches people to fully appreciate the present by taking several minutes to eat one raisin. As they chew, they savor the full sensory experienceā€”the texture, taste, and sound. Give it a try sometime.

If you donā€™t have a raisin, wash a few dishes very slowly. Feel the texture of each one. Listen to the sounds they make as they clink together. Smell the moist air lingering around you.

When you mindfully immerse yourself in the present moment, you can feel your mind unhinge from all the distressing thoughts about your past and future.

The Present Moment

In my late 40s, I spent two painful years with both of my shoulders “frozen.” Eventually, I sought help from Pema Chodronā€™s popular book, When Things Fall Apart, and was struck by her suggestion that one could attain peace by simply being present with each moment, even the distressing ones.

After reflecting on this idea, I realized that during my illness I had been searching through my past actions, worrying about what Iā€™d done to make my shoulders worse. When I wasnā€™t dwelling on the past, I was trying to figure out what treatment to try in the future.

As I followed Chodronā€™s suggestion to be fully present with my bodyā€™s sensations, my stress diminished greatly. Even though my shoulders didnā€™t heal right away, I was able to handle the pain and limitations withĀ  more peace and grace. (Need I say I had been a basket case before trying this?)

That experience taught me to make friends with my present circumstances, even when I don’t like them. Today I’m so grateful for my healthy and flexible shoulders–and for learning to appreciate every moment as it comes.

Try It Now

To experience mindfulness, try focusing 100% on what’s happening right now. What do you hear? What are you touching? What noises are you hearing? What tastes fill your mouth? When you’re this attentive to the present, your stress and worries melt away. I’d love to hear how this works for you!

Gigi Langer has been clean and sober for 33 years, and holds a PhD in worry less nowPsychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. She’s a sought-after speaker and retreat leader who has helped thousands improve their lives at work and at home.Ā Order her award-winning book at Amazon or get 20% off with promo code 20lessnow here.

 

Reject Worry & Stress with Mindfulness Meditation

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I’ve felt pretty stressed lately as I’ve been learning about book launches, pitches, press releases, tip sheets, and so on. It’s a dizzying array of information!Ā  I keep saying to myself, “I was a Psychology major, not a business school grad!”

Since most of my book budget went to wonderful editors and designers, I decided to study up and do the promotional work myself. OftenĀ I worry whether “I’m doing it right.” Ahhh: the achievers’ dilemma:Ā  We try so hard, it can be tough to let go of the results.

Yes, I get the irony: The book’s title is “Worry Less Now.”Ā But now you can see why I’ve needed every one of those 50 tools!

Anyway, I needed to do something to get my head screwed on straight, so I turned to mindful meditation.Ā  A few years ago, I took the Mindfulness-Based Stress ReductionĀ (MBSR) course with Madeline Ebelini at Integrative Mindfulness. After eight 2 & 1/2-hour live sessions, I finally began to get the hang of it.

Research by the developers of the course (Jon Kabat-Zinn & his colleagues at University of Massachusetts Medical Center) shows that consistent use of mindfulness meditation actually DECREASES the area in the brain responsible for stress and anxiety.Ā  Amazing! The MBSR course is offered in person all over the world and also online. Click here for more information.

The meditation I used today, “Mindfulness for Releasing Anxiety,” by Glenn Harrold, is offered free on the app, Insight Timer.

After 20 minutes, I got up feeling centered, confident, peaceful, calm, and receptive to intuitive nudges. I can relax, take action, and let go of perfectionism. Whew! What a relief!

PS: I get no kickback from Insight Timer; it’s just a helpful tool I share with you.

worry , recovery, sanityGigi Langer, Ph.D.Ā  Based on her work in psychology and personal experience inĀ therapy, recovery, and a variety of spiritual teachings, Gigi is a sought-after speaker and award-winning writer and professor. Ā She holds a Ph.D.Ā  in Psychology and Education fromĀ Stanford University.

Gigi lives happily in Michigan with her husband, Peter, and her cat, Murphy. Her new book,Ā 50 Ways to Worry Less Now: Reject Negative Thinking to Find Peace, Clarity, and ConnectionĀ will be released inĀ early 2018.Ā  Learn more at https://gigilanger.com/new-book-worry-less-now/