Gigi Langer

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NEW VIDEO plus Principle 2 of Attitudinal Healing

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Click on the red arrow below to watch “How to Grow Spiritually” –recorded last week by the wonderful women at Abington Episcopal Church, VA.  Learn how to change from a negative-thinking “Closed-Hearted Person” to an “Open-Hearted Person” who can easily Love yourself and others. Gain serenity, happy relationships, and fulfill your life purpose. All included in Love More Now (and much influenced by Attitudinal Healing!).

ATTITUDINAL HEALING CONTINUED

“It is not other people or situations that cause us to be upset. Rather, it is our own thoughts and attitudes about those things that are responsible for our distress.”

In my recent blog posts and newsletters I’ve been introducing the principles of Attitudinal Healing (AH).  Jerry Jampolsky, one of the early readers of A Course in Miracles, simplified its complex lessons into the 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing. As a child and adult psychiatrist, he first began applying them with children facing terminal illness. Soon the AH groups grew into a worldwide service that can be applied to almost any difficulty. 

In my March 2nd blog, I summarized Principle 1. The Essence of our Being is Love, and Love is Eternal. “Love cannot be hindered by what is merely physical. Therefore, we believe the mind has no limits and nothing is impossible. Because love is eternal, death need not be viewed fearfully.” Click HERE to read more about Principle 1 of AH.  

Principle 2. Health Is Inner Peace, Healing Is Letting Go Of Fear

In order for us to feel inner peace, we first have to make it our single goal. We can then start to release all the obstacles that stand in our way.”

“We experience many emotions in our body. They are all related to fear, but to us they have many forms. Anger, jealousy, guilt, depression, or whatever, arise in us all the time.

It is important for us to know that we have a choice about how we want to deal with these feelings. We can become helpless and be a victim, or we can actually change these feelings. The mind is the most powerful tool we have and we can use it to change these hurtful feelings.

For us to do this, we must become both aware and willing to change. We must get in touch with our inner voice, the one that is connected to our higher self instead of our self that is governed by the ego. It is the voice inside that tells us our truth without judgment.

The next step is to go to the experience of the emotion. For instance, when we feel anger arise, it is very important to get in touch with it. This means that we experience it, acknowledge it, and are gentle with it. We in no way deny our anger because it is a very normal feeling and does not need to have a “bad” label put on it. Doing so only creates another emotion to deal with, that of guilt.

It is only when we truly get in touch with our own anger that we can begin to change it. This can actually be done in an instant. It does not have to be processed at great length. Sometimes it is not really necessary to know the “why” and “how.” These words can often lead to more turmoil in our lives.

An Illustration

When inner peace becomes our only goal, we can recognize that holding on to anger does not bring us peace of mind. An amazing woman came to the Center about ten years ago. She was in a devastated state as her nine-year-old daughter had been diagnosed with severe leukemia. She was in Dr. Jerry Jampolsky’s office, when she heard him say that she could actually, at this moment, choose peace instead of experiencing the pain she was in. She managed, somehow, to really hear his meaning and was able to instantly shift her perception.

This woman went on to became one of our most active volunteers at the Center for many years and was able to help dozens of parents who were going through what she went through. This does not mean that she said, “You can choose peace” to each person when they were completely devastated. It means that she was there for them wherever they were. And because of her own experience, she was able to rely on her own inner strength so that she could be of help in any way she was needed. Seeing the instant shift in the woman I just described was a remarkable experience for me. It was a lesson that told me, ‘nothing is impossible.'”

More About Attitudinal Healing

You can easily find Attitudinal Healing groups by searching in your area. They are helpful for anyone who is struggling with any life situation. Many years ago, I joined my mentor, Jane, in California to become a facilitator for Attitudinal Healing groups. What a wonderful experience. Plus, I got to meet Jerry Jampolsky (now deceased).

The Twelve Principles of Attitudinal Healing:

  1. The Essence Of Our Being Is Love
  2. Health Is Inner Peace, Healing Is Letting Go Of Fear
  3. Giving And Receiving Are The Same
  4. We Can Let Go Of The Past And Of The Future
  5. Now Is The Only Time There Is And Each Instant Is For Giving
  6. We Can Learn To Love Ourselves And Others By Forgiving Rather Than Judging
  7. We Can Become Love Finders Rather Than Fault-Finders
  8. We Can Choose And Direct Ourselves To Be Peaceful Inside Regardless Of What Is Happening Outside
  9. We Are Students And Teachers To Each Other
  10. We Can Focus On The Whole Of Life Rather Than The Fragments
  11. Since Love Is Eternal, Death Need Not Be Viewed As Fearful
  12. We Can Always Perceive Others As Either Loving Or Fearful And Giving A Call Of Help For Love.

Source material: Love is Letting Go of Fear, by Jerry Jampolsky and AH Review Principles Booklet

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Gigi Langer has been sober 37 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat, Easter.

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Principle 1. The Essence of our Being is Love

“At any moment we can choose peace over conflict–and love over fear.” — Jerry Jampolsky, M.D.

In the next few blog posts, I’ll share the Twelve Principles of Attitudinal Healing (AH). It’s best to find a group in your local area to support you in applying these ideas.

How Did Attitudinal Healing Start?

Dr. Jerry Jampolsky, a graduate of Stanford Medical School, was a child and adult psychiatrist. One day, he overheard a young boy with leukemia ask the doctor, “What is it like to die?” The doctor changed the subject and asked the child about his bowel movements. Jerry decided to create a safe place for kids facing life-threatening illness to honestly discuss their own questions and fears. Out of these groups (and greatly influenced by A Course in Miracles) the 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing arose. Since 1975, thousands of groups–for all kinds of life challenges–exist all over the world and in most major US cities.

What Attitudinal Healing?

It is not just adjusting or adapting our attitudes. Rather, it’s consciously choosing to let go of our fearful attitudes. This spiritual pathway uses no “God” language, and seeks to adopt a non-judgmental attitude toward oneself, others, and the world. The goal is not to change behavior, but to retrain and reprogram our own mind. We learn to heal relationships, to experience peace of mind, and to let go of our fears.

Principle 1. The Essence of our Being is Love, and Love is Eternal

Attitudinal Healing is really concerned with experiencing love rather than defining it. Love itself is a pure energy force that flows through us. It remains constant and eternal.

If this energy is not blocked by pain, anxiety, anger and other manifestations of fear, we can recognize the essence of love and learn to feel peaceful inside. It is important to constantly work at clearing our minds and realize that the energy of love is all there is, and that which we call negative emotions keeps us from this sensation.

We can learn to experience a life that is about loving ourselves and extending that love to others. This is different than the way much of society views love. To the world, love is something that we want to GET from someone else coupled with the fear that we won’t have enough. When we live in this fear we are unable to give love freely. That is the work of the ego.

Love, which cannot be evaluated or measured is to be shared. The essence of love plays a large part in physical healing, as illustrated by this story.

In one of our groups at our Center, a woman in her mid-fifties was complaining that she had been plagued by a constant back pain for about nine years. We asked her if she would be willing to partake in a small experiment. We then asked the group of about fifteen people if they would be willing to send this woman love with their thoughts for about thirty seconds. We then asked the woman if she would be willing to send love back to the group at the same time. It was a wonderful half a minute as we all focused on the single goal of sending love to another. When the thirty seconds were up, it was tempting to evaluate what had transpired. But we cautioned about that, and the meeting continued on with much deeper sharing. At the end of the meeting, the woman with the back pain excitedly said, “I just can’t stand it. I have to tell you that for the last hour I have not had any pain in my back.”

What occurred in this meeting was not something tangible that could be seen or measured. The only thing that was happening was the intent to feel love for this woman. My goal was not to take her pain away or make myself feel better. It was only to be in the present, send love, and not be concerned with the outcome. It was a powerful lesson to realize that loving thoughts can be transmitted clearly and felt by another at a deep level.

(All content here is quoted or summarized from A Definition of the Principles of Attitudinal Healing by Patricia Robinson (Forward by Gerald Jampolsky, founder of AH) 

Meet Jerry Jampolsky

Listen to Jerry explain Attitudinal Healing here.

So, What Do You Think? Pretty Great Stuff, aye? And Here’s More!

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Gigi Langer has been sober 35 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat, Easter.

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Attitudinal Healing Saved My A-s!

At a particularly difficult time in my life, my grad school mentor, Jane Stallings, sent me Love is Letting Go of Fear, by Jerry Jampolsky, the founder of Attitudinal HealingI was in my third marriage and already found myself drinking and getting into trouble.

After skimming the book, I got the audio version and listened to it every day as I drove my green VW bug to and from work, hoping that something would help me escape my misery. I guess those ideas seeped in, because within a year I had quit drinking and begun my spiritual path. Amazing! 

By applying the principles of Attitudinal Healing (plus taking the actions suggested in the Twelve Steps), I have to say, my life is nothing short of miraculous!  

What is Attitudinal Healing?

Attitudinal Healing is based on the principle that it is not other people or situations that cause us to be upset. Rather, it is our own thoughts and attitudes about those things that are responsible for our distress. 

Healing results when we concentrate on changing our own attitudes rather than trying to change the attitudes of others. Thus, the goal of Attitudinal Healing is self-healing in the face of each life challenge.

Attitudinal Healing is not a religion, nor is it religious. People from many cultures, faiths, and denominations, as well as those who follow no faith at all are welcome to participate.” (Love Is Letting Go of Fear by Gerald Jampolsky, M.D.)


Many years after receiving this book, I joined my mentor, Jane, in California to become a facilitator for Attitudinal Healing groups. What a wonderful experience. Plus, I got to meet Jerry Jampolsky (now deceased).

You can easily find Attitudinal Healing groups by searching in your area. They are helpful for anyone who is struggling with any life situation. 

The Twelve Principles of Attitudinal Healing

  • The Essence Of Our Being Is Love
  • Health Is Inner Peace, Healing Is Letting Go Of Fear
  • We Can Let Go Of The Past And Of The Future
  • Now Is The Only Time There Is And Each Instant Is For Giving
  • We Can Learn To Love Ourselves And Others By Forgiving Rather Than Judging
  • We Can Become Love Finders Rather Than Fault-Finders
  • We Can Choose And Direct Ourselves To Be Peaceful Inside Regardless Of What Is Happening Outside
  • We Are Students And Teachers To Each Other
  • We Can Focus On The Whole Of Life Rather Than The Fragments
  • Since Love Is Eternal, Death Need Not Be Viewed As Fearful
  • We Can Always Perceive Others As Either Loving Or Fearful And Giving A Call Of Help For Love

These twelve spiritual principles lead us toward love and away from fear. We think of the application of these principles as “practical spirituality” that can be used in every aspect of our lives. There is not one area where they do not apply. As we learn to change our attitudes and change our minds, we change our lives.

Some of the Possible Benefits of Attitudinal Healing

  • Experiencing ourselves as love.
  • Believing we deserve happiness and inner peace.
  • Becoming a love finder rather than a fault finder.
  • Having an attitude of gratitude and always counting our blessings.
  • Focusing on the essence of others rather than on their appearances.
  • Walking through life more lightly.
  • Laughing more through judging less.
  • Living in a consciousness of giving rather than getting.
  • Recognizing that there is something greater than ourselves.
  • Successfully letting go of fear, judgments, guilt, being a victim, fear of death, unforgiving thoughts, pain, blame, fear of the past and future, being a fault finder, withholding love from anyone including ourselves, our need to assign guilt or innocence, complaining and listing our hurts, fear of intimacy, and especially the need to suffer.

If you’ve read any of my books, you’ll recognize the profound influence attitudinal healing has had on my life! I’ll be forever grateful for these lessons along with those from the Twelve Steps.

Gigi Langer has been sober 35 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat, Easter.

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Gigi’s award-winning book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now, describes how to correct the faulty thinking leading to addiction, dysfunctional relationships, perfectionism, and worry about loved ones. Check out the practical directions, personal stories, and other helpful growth tools. Amazon: 4.8 stars (Buy Discounted, personally signed Paperback with free Workbook PDF HERE $8.95 free US shipping.

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Love More Now: Facing Life’s Challenges with an Open Heart

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There is nothing like holding your own book in your hands—even though it’s not really “my own.” Rather, it was produced through my center of Love.

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WHAT'S IN LOVE MORE NOW?

If you struggle with negative thinking, substance abuse, difficult relationships, or codependency, please know that You CAN change! And Love More Now will help you do that!

-Uncover and remove the fears and patterns that have cut off love for yourself and others. 

-Find out how to live from the wisdom and strength of your true self—no matter what challenge you face. 

-Discover the freedom, serenity, and happiness of your life purpose. 

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Gigi Langer has been sober over 35 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat, Easter.