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A Beloved Author’s Review of Worry Less Now

Worry Less Now“I loved the simplicity and the host of quickly adopted suggestions. They grabbed my attention and wouldn’t let go. Even though I have been in recovery for more than 4 decades and thus didn’t really think another self-help book would make it to my treasured list, I was wrong. Worry Less Now is a winner. ” – Karen Casey

Karen Casey is the author of “Each Day a New Beginning:  Daily Meditations for Women,” a recovery book that has sold over three million copies.

When I first got sober in the 80s, my sponsor suggested I buy this little book along with two main alcoholism recovery texts. Each Day a New Beginning gave me hope and encouragement to stay the course.

Karen went on to publish over 30 books that inspire every person who reads them. Her other bestsellers include: Daily Meditations for Practicing the Course; Keepers of the Wisdom; Living Long, Living Passionately; and 52 Ways to Live the Course in Miracles. I especially love the last two.

With such a record, how could she not be a beloved author?

You can purchase “50 Ways to Worry Less Now” on Amazon starting February 20th!

Worry Less Now bookGigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology, both from Stanford University. As a professor, she won several awards for her teaching, and wrote books and articles on educators’ professional growth.  As a person in recovery, Gigi hasn’t had a drug or drink for over 30 years, although she does occasionally overindulge in Ghirardelli chocolate and historical novels. Through speeches, retreats, and workshops, she helps thousands of people improve their lives at home and at work.

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GOT CONFLICT? DON’T REACT . . . WAIT!

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Ugh. Conflict! When someone does something that ticks us off, it’s just too easy to react right away. We might even justify our angry response by saying, “Well, I’m just setting a boundary.”

But, any words—even one!—said in the grip of  frustration can make things worse rather than better. 

So, then how do we defend ourselves when we’re hurt? My suggestion is to do nothing . . .for now.

One of the wisest sayings I’ve heard is:  Sometimes waiting is an action.

 The trick is to realize that your riled-up feelings are distorting your interpretation of the events. When in this kind of defending and blaming mode, no good communication can be had. So, it’s best to WAIT until you can perceive the situation from a more peaceful place.

Many people use the three-day rule; they wait three days to gain perspective before taking action, and if still uncertain about how to respond, they wait a few more days.

Here are a few tips to help you settle down, gain a new perspective, and find a source of wisdom to guide you to right actions and words.

  • Try to remember that you won’t feel this way forever. Then WAIT.
  • Remind yourself that, although your feelings seem real, they are not necessarily based on reality. They’re based on an interpretation of a mind too easily offended. And WAIT.
  • Decide to take charge of your mind.
  • Whenever you catch yourself pondering how to fix your situation, STOP! Leave it in your mind and don’t act. Instead, say to yourself, “I want to see this differently.”
  • Say the Serenity Prayer (or another positive phrase) and keep saying it until your worry and need for control fade away.
  • Continue replacing the negative thoughts with positive ones as often as necessary. (This could be a lot!)

Eventually, you will find yourself either completely unconcerned about the problem, or you will intuitively know what to say or do when the time is right.

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Gigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology, both from Stanford University. As a person in recovery, Gigi hasn’t had a drug or drink for 32 years. Through her writing, speeches, retreats, and workshops, she has helped thousands of people improve their lives at home and at work.

Order Gigi’s new book, 50 WAYS TO WORRY LESS NOW: REJECT NEGATIVE THINKING TO FIND PEACE, CLARITY, AND CONNECTION here:  Amazon or Seattle Books

 

 

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50 Ways to Worry Less Now Available January 30th!

Worry Less NowGUESS WHAT??

You can now buy a print copy of the book!    The book description is here

Just click here  and it will arrive in early February

NOTE:  In the publishing biz, this is called a “soft launch” because it allows blog and newsletter subscribers to purchase the book before the official publication date.  The full / big/ official launch is February 20th.

Request: As soon as you read it, I’d be so grateful if you’d post your reviews in three places: Amazon; my author FB page; and Goodreads.

If you’d prefer to order it from Amazon, just use this link

If you prefer an e-book, that will be available in mid-February.

gigilanger_worrylessnowGigi Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology, both from Stanford University. As a professor, she won several awards for her teaching, and (as Georgea M. Langer) wrote four books for educators as well as hundreds of articles on professional growth.

As a person in recovery, Gigi hasn’t had a drug or drink for over 30 years, although she does occasionally overindulge in Ghirardelli chocolate and historical novels. Through speeches, retreats, and workshops, she helps thousands of people improve their lives at home and at work. She lives happily in Michigan with her husband, Peter and her kitty, Murphy.

 

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Is It Good or Bad to Be A Highly Sensitive Person?

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For years, I constantly heard that I was too “thin-skinned” or “high maintenance.” When I looked around at others, they didn’t seem to take things so personally or to be bothered by loud noises and bright lights.

What was wrong with me?

About ten years ago I discovered the answer: I’m a “highly sensitive person” and I’m NOT alone. Indeed, about 20% of the population shares this trait.

Dr. Eileen Aron’s 25 years of research indicates that highly sensitive people:

  • are quite sensitive to external stimuli,
  • prefer quiet, less chaotic surroundings,
  • worry excessively,
  • are easily overwhelmed,
  • reflect on things more than others, and
  • feel things very deeply,

You’ll be happy to hear that these characteristics are quite respected in many societies where the sensitive ones become advisors and sages. But, in our Western culture, being highly sensitive isn’t always understood or valued. That’s why some of us so often feel on the outside looking in.

The healthiest path for us sensitive folks is to value who we are and take good care of ourselves.

So, if you think you might be a highly sensitive person or have a loved one that is, take the quiz on Aron’s website and check out her blog, “Comfort Zone.”

If you can relate, here are a few suggestions for self-care.

  • Reduce your exposure to loud, dramatic input: news programs, social media, argumentative friends/family, etc.
  • Schedule downtime to rest, meditate, read, and renew after a busy day or after lots of social activity.
  • Sleep enough, eat well and limit caffeine intake.
  • Treat yourself to the enjoyment of beauty: take a walk, savor a sunset, etc.
  • Hang out with loving people who like you exactly the way you are.
  • Avoid bright lights and loud background noise (if they bother you).
  • Remind yourself that your sensitivity makes you creative, empathetic, and loving.

If you too are highly sensitive, please share a few of your insights here. Thanks!

gigilanger_worrylessnowGigi Langer, Ph.D. is a seasoned author and popular speaker who has helped thousands of people improve their lives at home and work. She’s a person in recovery who hasn’t had a drug or drink for over 30 years. Gigi holds an MA in Psychology and Ph.D. in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University.

Worry Less Now by Gigi LangerCheck out my new book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now: Reject Negative Thinking to Find Peace, Clarity, and Connection.  Pre-orders are now open.

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