Gigi Langer

Worry Less Now!

 Love More Now!

NEW VIDEO plus Principle 2 of Attitudinal Healing

NEW VIDEO!

Click on the red arrow below to watch “How to Grow Spiritually” –recorded last week by the wonderful women at Abington Episcopal Church, VA.  Learn how to change from a negative-thinking “Closed-Hearted Person” to an “Open-Hearted Person” who can easily Love yourself and others. Gain serenity, happy relationships, and fulfill your life purpose. All included in Love More Now (and much influenced by Attitudinal Healing!).

ATTITUDINAL HEALING CONTINUED

“It is not other people or situations that cause us to be upset. Rather, it is our own thoughts and attitudes about those things that are responsible for our distress.”

In my recent blog posts and newsletters I’ve been introducing the principles of Attitudinal Healing (AH).  Jerry Jampolsky, one of the early readers of A Course in Miracles, simplified its complex lessons into the 12 Principles of Attitudinal Healing. As a child and adult psychiatrist, he first began applying them with children facing terminal illness. Soon the AH groups grew into a worldwide service that can be applied to almost any difficulty. 

In my March 2nd blog, I summarized Principle 1. The Essence of our Being is Love, and Love is Eternal. “Love cannot be hindered by what is merely physical. Therefore, we believe the mind has no limits and nothing is impossible. Because love is eternal, death need not be viewed fearfully.” Click HERE to read more about Principle 1 of AH.  

Principle 2. Health Is Inner Peace, Healing Is Letting Go Of Fear

In order for us to feel inner peace, we first have to make it our single goal. We can then start to release all the obstacles that stand in our way.”

“We experience many emotions in our body. They are all related to fear, but to us they have many forms. Anger, jealousy, guilt, depression, or whatever, arise in us all the time.

It is important for us to know that we have a choice about how we want to deal with these feelings. We can become helpless and be a victim, or we can actually change these feelings. The mind is the most powerful tool we have and we can use it to change these hurtful feelings.

For us to do this, we must become both aware and willing to change. We must get in touch with our inner voice, the one that is connected to our higher self instead of our self that is governed by the ego. It is the voice inside that tells us our truth without judgment.

The next step is to go to the experience of the emotion. For instance, when we feel anger arise, it is very important to get in touch with it. This means that we experience it, acknowledge it, and are gentle with it. We in no way deny our anger because it is a very normal feeling and does not need to have a “bad” label put on it. Doing so only creates another emotion to deal with, that of guilt.

It is only when we truly get in touch with our own anger that we can begin to change it. This can actually be done in an instant. It does not have to be processed at great length. Sometimes it is not really necessary to know the “why” and “how.” These words can often lead to more turmoil in our lives.

An Illustration

When inner peace becomes our only goal, we can recognize that holding on to anger does not bring us peace of mind. An amazing woman came to the Center about ten years ago. She was in a devastated state as her nine-year-old daughter had been diagnosed with severe leukemia. She was in Dr. Jerry Jampolsky’s office, when she heard him say that she could actually, at this moment, choose peace instead of experiencing the pain she was in. She managed, somehow, to really hear his meaning and was able to instantly shift her perception.

This woman went on to became one of our most active volunteers at the Center for many years and was able to help dozens of parents who were going through what she went through. This does not mean that she said, “You can choose peace” to each person when they were completely devastated. It means that she was there for them wherever they were. And because of her own experience, she was able to rely on her own inner strength so that she could be of help in any way she was needed. Seeing the instant shift in the woman I just described was a remarkable experience for me. It was a lesson that told me, ‘nothing is impossible.'”

More About Attitudinal Healing

You can easily find Attitudinal Healing groups by searching in your area. They are helpful for anyone who is struggling with any life situation. Many years ago, I joined my mentor, Jane, in California to become a facilitator for Attitudinal Healing groups. What a wonderful experience. Plus, I got to meet Jerry Jampolsky (now deceased).

The Twelve Principles of Attitudinal Healing:

  1. The Essence Of Our Being Is Love
  2. Health Is Inner Peace, Healing Is Letting Go Of Fear
  3. Giving And Receiving Are The Same
  4. We Can Let Go Of The Past And Of The Future
  5. Now Is The Only Time There Is And Each Instant Is For Giving
  6. We Can Learn To Love Ourselves And Others By Forgiving Rather Than Judging
  7. We Can Become Love Finders Rather Than Fault-Finders
  8. We Can Choose And Direct Ourselves To Be Peaceful Inside Regardless Of What Is Happening Outside
  9. We Are Students And Teachers To Each Other
  10. We Can Focus On The Whole Of Life Rather Than The Fragments
  11. Since Love Is Eternal, Death Need Not Be Viewed As Fearful
  12. We Can Always Perceive Others As Either Loving Or Fearful And Giving A Call Of Help For Love.

Source material: Love is Letting Go of Fear, by Jerry Jampolsky and AH Review Principles Booklet

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Gigi Langer has been sober 37 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat, Easter.

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Attitudinal Healing Saved My A-s!

At a particularly difficult time in my life, my grad school mentor, Jane Stallings, sent me Love is Letting Go of Fear, by Jerry Jampolsky, the founder of Attitudinal HealingI was in my third marriage and already found myself drinking and getting into trouble.

After skimming the book, I got the audio version and listened to it every day as I drove my green VW bug to and from work, hoping that something would help me escape my misery. I guess those ideas seeped in, because within a year I had quit drinking and begun my spiritual path. Amazing! 

By applying the principles of Attitudinal Healing (plus taking the actions suggested in the Twelve Steps), I have to say, my life is nothing short of miraculous!  

What is Attitudinal Healing?

Attitudinal Healing is based on the principle that it is not other people or situations that cause us to be upset. Rather, it is our own thoughts and attitudes about those things that are responsible for our distress. 

Healing results when we concentrate on changing our own attitudes rather than trying to change the attitudes of others. Thus, the goal of Attitudinal Healing is self-healing in the face of each life challenge.

Attitudinal Healing is not a religion, nor is it religious. People from many cultures, faiths, and denominations, as well as those who follow no faith at all are welcome to participate.” (Love Is Letting Go of Fear by Gerald Jampolsky, M.D.)


Many years after receiving this book, I joined my mentor, Jane, in California to become a facilitator for Attitudinal Healing groups. What a wonderful experience. Plus, I got to meet Jerry Jampolsky (now deceased).

You can easily find Attitudinal Healing groups by searching in your area. They are helpful for anyone who is struggling with any life situation. 

The Twelve Principles of Attitudinal Healing

  • The Essence Of Our Being Is Love
  • Health Is Inner Peace, Healing Is Letting Go Of Fear
  • We Can Let Go Of The Past And Of The Future
  • Now Is The Only Time There Is And Each Instant Is For Giving
  • We Can Learn To Love Ourselves And Others By Forgiving Rather Than Judging
  • We Can Become Love Finders Rather Than Fault-Finders
  • We Can Choose And Direct Ourselves To Be Peaceful Inside Regardless Of What Is Happening Outside
  • We Are Students And Teachers To Each Other
  • We Can Focus On The Whole Of Life Rather Than The Fragments
  • Since Love Is Eternal, Death Need Not Be Viewed As Fearful
  • We Can Always Perceive Others As Either Loving Or Fearful And Giving A Call Of Help For Love

These twelve spiritual principles lead us toward love and away from fear. We think of the application of these principles as “practical spirituality” that can be used in every aspect of our lives. There is not one area where they do not apply. As we learn to change our attitudes and change our minds, we change our lives.

Some of the Possible Benefits of Attitudinal Healing

  • Experiencing ourselves as love.
  • Believing we deserve happiness and inner peace.
  • Becoming a love finder rather than a fault finder.
  • Having an attitude of gratitude and always counting our blessings.
  • Focusing on the essence of others rather than on their appearances.
  • Walking through life more lightly.
  • Laughing more through judging less.
  • Living in a consciousness of giving rather than getting.
  • Recognizing that there is something greater than ourselves.
  • Successfully letting go of fear, judgments, guilt, being a victim, fear of death, unforgiving thoughts, pain, blame, fear of the past and future, being a fault finder, withholding love from anyone including ourselves, our need to assign guilt or innocence, complaining and listing our hurts, fear of intimacy, and especially the need to suffer.

If you’ve read any of my books, you’ll recognize the profound influence attitudinal healing has had on my life! I’ll be forever grateful for these lessons along with those from the Twelve Steps.

Gigi Langer has been sober 35 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat, Easter.

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Gigi’s award-winning book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now, describes how to correct the faulty thinking leading to addiction, dysfunctional relationships, perfectionism, and worry about loved ones. Check out the practical directions, personal stories, and other helpful growth tools. Amazon: 4.8 stars (Buy Discounted, personally signed Paperback with free Workbook PDF HERE $8.95 free US shipping.

Love More Now: Facing Life’s Challenges with an Open Heart is now available in
  -PAPERBACK ($9.99) and
  -E-BOOK ($4.99)
from Amazon HERE or
Barnes and Noble HERE.

These low prices last through February, so get your copy now!
Thank you SO MUCH for helping readers find Love More Now!

FROM HARRIET HUNTER: “NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS”

THANK YOU TO MY DEAR FRIEND, HARRIET, FOR ALLOWING ME TO PRESENT HER FABULOUS ARTICLE, “New Year Resolutions.” Read on to get a taste of Harriet’s humor, wisdom, and inspiration. The “Collector’s Edition of Miracles of Recovery” and Harriet’s other books are available HERE. https://amzn.to/3W88R3W

“Before sobriety, New Year’s resolutions were a lot like not picking up a drink. Or drug!  I would SWEAR each morning I could get through the day, AND I DID!

But I couldn’t get through the night. Nighttime would come (or just the thought of night coming on would be enough to send my nerves into a panic), and I’d tell my family, “Ooops, I’ve forgotten something!” and out I’d go.

“There was never a time when I could not be without my best friend who was always there for me. Without fail.

“And so came the failure of everything else that I wanted to do.

“Each New Year’s Eve I’d make my faithful resolutions. You know the drill: I was going to QUIT drinking followed by quitting drinking beginning the next day. These two were always at the top of my list.  But I think deep down I knew it was a joke. It was the closest to not drinking I could get.

“Fast Forward. Now, 23 years clean and sober, my intentions and statements about what is true for me have taken on a stronger, deliberate meaning.

I’d like to share a few things with you that continue to work for me.

Give up the Ghost of Failure

I needed to Stop. Kidding. Myself: I was going to be a complete looser for the REST of my life if I didn’t give up the Ghost of Failure. I never had a prayer of succeeding at anything, because, I told myself, I was too undisciplined. I hurt too many people and was no longer redeemable. This was the set-up I needed to fail yet again!!

And it worked for me for a lifetime.

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The key concept here is to, “Listen to The Words You Use Against Yourself.” Nothing will assure your success more than when you tell yourself a thousand times that “I Am a Winner and I CAN and WILL do this.” 

Wayne Dwyer, Ph.D., said, “If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

In the story, “Acceptance Was the Answer” on page 420 of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous the author shares Dr. Dyer’s philosophy here with, “I MUST keep my magic magnifying mind on my acceptance and off my expectations…”

When we “accept” a situation and move that specific situation from our head to our heart, we have become convinced we can accomplish our goal because we’ve made it a part of who we are. We are positively convinced, absolutely certain now, we can do this, and we do! Does this happen with one thought, or one try? Typically, not.

We expand the possibility of our success by making our resolutions non-negotiable so we cannot fail.

This one solitary ACT of turning failure into success starts to unfold around us and with repetition, belief in ourselves and continual expanding of these thoughts, we begin to bloom find hope in our hard-fought accomplishment.

What we focus on, becomes us, because it has moved into the ranks of our critical thinking. We have become CERTAIN it is what we want to do and we DO it!!  Continued action, as if at the gym, strengthens this resolve and tenacity.

And we succeed! Failure now is a thing of the past because we’ve changed the way we’ve look at the thing we want to conquer!

Success begins and ends with us, but we must first believe it possible, But before we’re able to do that, we have to WANT it more than anything. In much the same way we want our sobriety.

Develop Ten (10) Intentions (Resolutions) to Achieve in 2023

The first five must be achievable, attainable with a little effort on your part. And we do them!

The next five, however, are the more involved, consequential and life-changing intentions. You must be honest about how much you want to achieve them, so prioritize as you go. Determine how achievable they are but do it!  In other words, if you intend to lose 25 pounds, begin your first book or find a new job writing these words down are not enough. In fact—don’t commit them to paper at all unless and until you’ve determined the importance and consequence of each. Because once we commit them to paper and prioritize them, we begin to allocate precious energy, emotionalism, prayers and forward motion to them whether you know it or not.

What are you willing to do differently?

This is the definition of life-altering propositions, and one of the greatest demonstrations of those who succeed. We already know that if nothing changes, well—nothing changes!

‘Differently’ doesn’t have to be huge, because it is most often found in our thinking. To do things ‘differently’ is to outline a mental plan of success. It may or may not include prayer, waking up earlier, the process might be a combination of large and small changes, but changes they are. It is this hula-hoop of changes we make to do a specific situation differently that moves us from our old ‘failure’ of thinking, to new behavior of a ‘success,’ because preparation, thought and the value we attach to this new intention is the difference between failing and succeeding.

What are you truly made of, and what lengths are you willing to go to, to achieve your resolutions?

This answer requires honest reflections on subjects like procrastination, whether or not you have the sustainability inside necessary to carry it out, and what the payoff will be to go through with this intention?

If we want success, then we must set ourselves UP to experience that success differently than we’ve done in the past.

Oftentimes, in order for this new behavior or action to be achieved, it must be part of your daily thinking. It may involve how you ‘see’ yourself, moving closer to your success just for today, taking small steps as the elephant, but making strong strides with each forward motion. It may require adding a special mantra, verse, prayer to your daily life.

Whatever it involves, if you make it exciting, thorough and a part of your daily thinking, you cannot fail. Because you’ve already ‘expanded’ the energy associated with your resolution so much it is now a part of who you are!

Lastly, whatever your Big Five might be—be sure to seek out your passion associated with each of these and have faith that they wouldn’t be on your list without this passion. USE that passion, that excitement and positivity to work with you as you begin tackling one at a time as prioritized. Of course, you’ll rearrange them as the year moves forward, but we can only DO one at a time! ~  Anything more and we lose focus and forward momentum and become overwhelmed.

Blessings to each of this New Year with the allotment of another 365 days to become increasingly creative with our time, with ourselves, and learn by reaching and collaborating with others how they’ve done it.


If you’d like to see all of the books from Harriet, visit https://amzn.to/3W88R3W. Her new Collector’s Edition of Miracles of Recovery is at the bottom of the page.

LINK TO FULL BLOG: https://harriethunter.org/alcohol-and-drug-addiction-considering-your-new-years-intentions/

Gigi’s a newest book describes how to dissolve the blockages that close our hearts to loving ourselves and others. Learn to open access to the Loving Energy of your True Self. Find the wisdom and courage to face and resolve relationship difficulties, perfectionism, illness, and worry about loved ones (among others).  Due on Amazon, mid-February, 2023.

Gigi Langer has been sober over 35 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat, Easter.

gigi langer worry less now
worry less now gigi langer

Gigi’s award-winning book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now, describes how to correct the faulty thinking leading to addiction, dysfunctional relationships, perfectionism, and worry about loved ones. Check out the practical directions, personal stories, and other helpful growth tools. Amazon: 4.8 stars (Buy Discounted, personally signed Paperback with free Workbook PDF HERE $8.95 free US shipping.)

My New Book Cover! and New Podcast!

Many of you know that I have been working on a new book for the last couple of years. I am happy to announce that it is in the production phase with Possum Hill press, to be released in February.
So far, nobody has seen the new cover! YOU ARE THE FIRST. Isn’t it gorgeous! Thanks to Susi Clark of CreativeBlueprintDesign.com. She is great!

Thank you to Jay Lind’s “Sobriety Between the Lines” Podcast for featuring me last week! We had a fascinating discussion about how our thinking and attiudes can either help or hinder our sobriety. CHECK IT OUT below on Spotify OR on Apple HERE

Gigi Langer has been sober 35 years, and holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education from Stanford University. Formerly crowned the “Queen of Worry,” Gigi resigned her post many years ago and now lives happily in Florida with her husband, Peter and her cat, Easter.

gigi langer worry less now
worry less now gigi langer

Gigi’s award-winning book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now, describes how to correct the faulty thinking leading to addiction, dysfunctional relationships, perfectionism, and worry about loved ones. Check out the practical directions, personal stories, and other helpful growth tools. Amazon: 4.8 stars (Buy Discounted, personally signed Paperback with free Workbook PDF HERE $8.95 free US shipping.)