Gigi Langer

Worry Less Now!

Ā Love More Now!

LETTING GO OF URGENCY

I often hear a whispered lie telling me ā€œGotta go faster!ā€ or ā€œItā€™s going to horrible if I canā€™t get this done.ā€

Such urgent thoughts scare the wits out of meā€”and theyā€™re NOT TRUE.

To re-calibrate my exaggerated self-talk, I breathe, meditate, pray, and use other tools to connect with my true self/higher power. And then, voila! Those things that just ā€œhadā€ to be done are effortless and in perfect order. Whew! Relief!

I love this reading about urgency from Melody Beattie, The Language Of Letting Go.

ā€œOne thing at a time. Thatā€™s all we have to do. Not two things at once, but one thing done in peace.

ā€œOne task at a time. One feeling at a time. One day at a time. One problem at a time. One step at a time. One pleasure at a time.

ā€œRelax. Let go of urgency. Begin calmly now. Take one thing at a time.

ā€œSee how everything works out?

ā€œToday, I will peacefully approach one thing at a time. When in doubt, I will take first things first.

Great advice, aye? I think Iā€™ll follow it by letting go of my urgency!

Gigi Langer holds a PhD from Stanford University in Psychological Studies in Education. Sheā€™s an award-winning teacher and writer with 33 years clean and sober. Her new book, 50 Ways to Worry Less Now won the National Indie Excellence Award and rates 4.7 stars on Amazon. The AUDIOBOOK is due in mid-September 2019 (Audible, Amazon, i-tunes)

ENJOY LIFEā€”UNFETTERED BY THE PAST!

IĀ recently hurt my knee and have been in a lot of pain. My thoughts immediately returned to my many years of limitation and anguish with two frozen shoulders. I was terrified this experience would be the same.

Unfortunately, the mind uses the past to predict the future. If our past was painful, we tend to see pain lurking around every corner.

Such hyper-vigilance causes stress, cardiac problems, gastric difficulties, depression, and a variety of other ailments.

WE CAN REPROGRAM OUR MINDS

The good news is, filling our minds with peaceful, positive thoughts dissolves our old fears. But, these new thoughts must be fed to the mind over and over again.

For example, a daily gratitude list or morning meditation teaches the mind to expect better things. Mantras, affirmations, visualization, the Golden Key (explained here), and consistent prayer do the same.

Finally, choose wisely when sharing your tough times with others.

PICK YOUR CONFIDANTS CAREFULLY

(See this post for more detail.) Avoid those who keep focusing on the upsetting situation, talk only about themselves, or suggest immediate action.

Instead, choose caring, healthy people who guide you to become calm so you can access the strength and wisdom of your “positive power.” (More about that here).

As we use such practices to calm our fears, we realize the past has no control over us, so we don’t need to fear the future. We’ll begin to relax and enjoy lifeā€”revel in it, even!

PS: I’M SO GLAD I WROTE THIS to remind myself of the truth. I am not a victim of my past! All is well. My knee will heal in God’s time. And truth be told, I DID need to slow down a little!

Gigi Langer is a former “Queen of Worry” who writes, speaks, and encourages others to overcome their worries, addictions, and negative thinking. Her PhD is from Stanford University.

Get Gigiā€™s award-winning book, ā€œ50 Ways to Worry Less Nowā€ (4.7 stars Amazon). Discounted signed copy at GigiLanger.com/buy