Cultivate Detachment for Peace of Mind

detach peace of mindTo Gain Peace of Mind, Detach!
I often hear a negative tone on my TV screen and news sites. So many of the experts–regardless of their point of view–sound sarcastic, judgmental, and  convinced they are absolutely 100% right.

Sadly,  what we see in the media too often presses the fear button in our psyches. If spiritual principles hold true,  this is dangerous business.

Hatred and condemnation multiply fear and draw us away from peace of mind (love).

I’m not suggesting that we bury our heads in the sand.  I read a variety of news articles so I can be informed. I also write to my local and national representatives and, of course I vote.  But I refrain from judging and worrying.

It’s all too easy to let the daily onslaught of news convince us that we are at the mercy of the world’s conflicts. The truth is, our essence is spiritual, untouched by today’s fear-filled scenarios.

That’s why I am so drawn to this phrase: “The best attitude to cultivate is gentle indifference.” (July 30th reading in Daily Meditations for Practicing The Course by Karen Casey).

Another word for “gentle indifference” might be “detachment”a standing apart without getting caught up in the drama; but still acting from a place of peace and integrity.

Here’s how I try to detach and gain peace of mind, so I can contribute to our society’s future in the best way possible:

  • The minute I hear troubling news, I pray for those involved, that they  may be guided to the best solutions for all.
  • When I’m tempted to respond negatively, I take a few deep breaths and affirm that all is in perfect order, even if my limited perceptions can’t see it.
  • I trust that by seeking peace of mind first, I will be guided to the right thoughts, words, and actions.
  • I accept that my goal is to be a channel of love, not fear.
  • As a “Highly Sensitive Person,” I limit my exposure to inflammatory news sources.

How do you remain centered and positively productive during turbulent times?    Please share in the Comments section below. 

gigilanger_worrylessnowGigi Langer is a former “Queen of Worry.” She’s also an educator, speaker, and author of 50 Ways to Worry Less Now, winner of the 2018 Indie Excellence Award. Learn to defeat negative thinking, find inner peace, attain clarity, and improve relationships–no matter what is going on in your life! Available through Amazon (5 stars), Barnes and Noble, and e-book sites.

Langer holds a PhD in Psychological Studies in Education and an MA in Psychology, both from Stanford. As Georgea M. Langer, she’s published several books for teachers and school administrators.

BEFORE GOING ON DEPRESSION MEDICATION, READ THIS

Are you considering taking an antidepressant to sooth your anxiety or depression?

If you are, you might take a look at this book first. The author, Joe Baldizzone, is a guy who has used the ideas in his book to overcome depression, addiction & anxiety. He is NOT against medication, and, in fact, suggests you work  closely with a doctor.  But he DOES give you several alternatives to try. In my opinion, the strategies will likely work along with medication, and may be helpful if you are slowly tapering off of it.

The book is an informative & entertaining read. I love Joe’s easy, honest tone, and how he shares his life experiences to illustrate the points he makes. The 50 tips are presented simply and clearly as proven things to do before turning to depression/anxiety medication (or along with small doses). Try some of the strategies and see your life improve.

Definitely get this book, even if you’re not depressed, but just want to be happier. You can learn more about Joe on his FB author page or at Joe Nerve.

7 Ways You May Be Blocking Your Happiness

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Kermie & I start the day

Recently, someone asked me to name 7 negative things we do everyday that block happiness, with suggestions for what to do instead. 

That’s a “Pretty Good Question!” I thought. “I’ll give it a try!”     Here’s my list of seven.

What would you add? Write your ideas in the “Comments” section at the end.

7 THINGS THAT BLOCK HAPPINESS AND HOW TO CHANGE THEM

1 Saying ”I can’t . .  ”  Change it to “Up until now I couldn’t . .  ”

2 Saying “I always . .  ” Change it to “In the past I’ve . . “ or “I used to . .  ”

3 Reading email and texts first thing in the morning. Instead, meditate, read inspiring words, journal, or pray, (like Kermit & I do!)

4 Criticizing or Gossiping. Instead, look for what’s strong, positive, and good about a person or situation. Avoid complainers.

5 Saying, “You should . .” or “He should (or ought to) . . ” Instead, admit that you may not know best and, even if you did, it’s not your job to change others.

6 Drinking or drugging in a way that’s harming your relationships, health, or safety. Instead, get into a recovery program or therapy.

7 Thinking about what you’ll say next while “listening” to another.  Then responding with your own story or advice. Instead, listen with all of your mind & heart. Try to understand what the person is saying by asking for clarification, e.g., “You mentioned (…). Tell me more about that. What was that like for you?” Listen to the answer and then probe for more detail. Talk less. Listen more. Ask more questions.

OKAY, IT’S YOUR TURN. In the Comments section below, list the bad habit that  blocks your own happiness. Be sure to add the “instead” behavior. We really need your suggestions!

I can’t wait to see what you post!!

Worry Less Now; Gigi Langer
From me to you!

Worry Less Now by Gigi Langer

Gigi Langer holds an MA in Psychology and PhD in Psychological Studies in Education, both from Stanford.

She’s also an educator, speaker, and author of 50 Ways to Worry Less Now: Reject Negative Thinking to Find Peace, Clarity, and Connection (February, 2018), available in e-book formats and in print from Amazon.  

“Langer’s frank and empathetic tone will comfort readers, as will the practical steps she teaches.” (Featured Book, BookLife by Publishers Weekly)     

“Her honesty will blow you away! It is beautifully written; filled with humor and authenticity.” (Member of Al Anon)]