Over 30 years ago, I was listening to a cassette of Gerald Jampolskyâs little book, âLove is Letting Go of Fearâ as I drove to work in my VW Bug. It changed me forever.
For years, I had been filled with shame and self-loathing because I couldnât stop my lying, promiscuity, drug use, and profound belief that I couldnât possibly be loved by anyone. Already in my third marriage, I was back to my old patterns.
Thatâs why, when my grad school mentor, Jane, sent me Jampolskyâs little book, I grabbed onto it like a life raft.
It taught me two crucial truths:
1. The essence of my being is love.
2. We can learn to love ourselves and others by forgiving rather than by judging.
Back and forth to work, I listened to these and other lessons, and slowly began to change.
After years of denial, I quit drugs and alcohol and discovered the power of A Course in Miraclesâa spiritual system similar to Jerryâs work. Over time, I even managed to become happily married.
Twenty years later, Jane and I attended Jerryâs âAttitudinal Healing” (AH) weekend course where he emphasized one of my favorite principles of AH:
âWe can become Love finders rather than fault finders.â
For example, instead of criticizing politicians, we can choose to love and appreciate our democracy. Or, when you have an ache, instead of focusing on it, send love to all the body parts that work perfectly.
Every minute, we can choose to be loving toward ourselves and others rather than judging them. We can choose to join our hearts rather than finding fault.
As we bear these lessons in mind, let’s all HAVE A WONDERFUL HOLIDAY SEASON!
With Love, from Gigi Langer. đ
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